I am a Jain by birth, by “Karma” though I dont qualify for any religion.
I simply need a strong logic to back up everything and unless there is some really logical scientific reason to explain, why I am supposed to do so and so… I wont do it… However if my free mind wishes to do it I might as well do it…. So basically I do what I like and what I feel is right and cannot toe a line… just coz a Jain is supposed to do it…
I am thankful to my best friend Vijay for introducing me to the world of eggs and flesh ! I simply love eggs and chicken and am a proud meat eating Indian !! naa… I dont care about jain or hindu or muslim !! never have, never will !!!
I am more than happy to eat cakes on christmas at my friend Vaibhav’s (christian) house and most most most pleased at the lovely Chicken Biryani Asif’s mom makes on Eid!!! She is my favourite cook !
Now… I married a non jain girl…. who also used to love eating chicken ! In her house they dont cook nonveg, as mom in law doesnt eat or cook, but they always indulge outside in restaurants….
Now strangely, my girlfriend who loves eating chicken, suddenly marries me and decides to quit eggs and non veg !!
No in my house this is not allowed most definitely… If my mom comes to know about this post… I am banned from entering her house… !! 😦 thankfully she doesnt read my blogs
But I still eat, never let my mom know ! My wife was to do the same thing, eat and not tell at home, but she quit ! why ? i dont know !!
Than my wife does “ekashana” (eating just once a day and consuming only boiled water, water is only allowed between sunrise and sunset, after that no water either) in our festival “Paryushana”, this festival comes once a year for 8 days in the monsoon.
So she ate only once for 8 days, now I have never done half a fast or even an attempt ever, nor has my mom ever done a fast, nor has my dad done a fast ever !! Neither my brothers… who both are also not jains by “karma”
Maybe she was trying to impress her mom in law, this was just after our marriage, who was very proud of her Daughter in law doing all the tapasya…. but the fact remains she was not forced, my mom herself could never fast !
Two days back, was “Mahavir Jayanti” … our samaj in Indore had a function and we were invited, the moment I read the invitation, I announced, we or atleast I are not going.
But missus, non jain by birth, decides she has to go… I live with my brother who is married to a jain girl, this jain girl says she doesnt feel like going to the function and will stay home and eat….
My wife accompanied by a cousin’s wife… This cousin is also my boss… goes to the function, please note, my jain cousin is married to an assamee again a non jain !
So eventually these two Non Jains go and attend a jain function while I and my cousin are at office on a Jain holiday, not just do the ladies go to the samaj function which are not parties by any means, lots of silly bhajans and a few games… these ladies then come to office and advise us that we should go to such functions… or we will be left out of the samaj !!!!
I rarely visit any temples or derasar’s (jain temple) …. the last I can remember is going to an Ayappa temple about a year back, coz my son dragged me to it as he had been to the temple from his school and he loved the decoration !!!! (amazingly all that my mom or wife cannot get me to do, my son can easily )
Very often I am given a lecture that I should be visiting derasar’s and samaj functions more often by missus citing or else our son will not become jain !!! (I aint a jain you aint a jain than why do you want to make your son a jain ? Cant we be Indians ? no religion ! )
When I try and feed eggs to my son, my wife objects ! She wants me to allow him to select his own religion ! She says he is a born Jain you should allow him to grow up as a jain and than he may select his own religion !
I am like whats the logic behind all this ??
( i can understand if i want my wife to change etc… but when I am least concerned why is she so concerned… no matter how much explanation… she thinks she is a jain, that I am a jain and I must try and be a jain and most importantly my son must be a jain !! )
Over the years, I have been hammering away at my wife and now I have got her to slowly start eating eggs and the gravy from the chicken… but I can never stop her from stopping eating roots and greenery during “Paryushan” or from her wanting to follow all Jain customs…
Religion is a highly complicated matter isn’t it ? Why people do certain things is totally beyond me… as my wife’s logics…. which I have questioned many times and she just doesnt have any answers…. just like that she says always !
What also strikes me is the uncanny ability of women to accept changes and try and adapt to different things… Would a man do these things… even if he were asked ?