A wedding amidst friends…

I have been tagged by Monu, well actually even before she tagged me her post had already inspired me to write a post… I have already written about my marriage once and I suggest you guys read it so that I dont have to repeat things and write an epic ITS HERE …


When I started writing this post it was all getting too loong… and while I was loving writing it as it was giving me back so many memories, which I thought I had forgotten, that I simply let go of things and kept typing… at the end I think its way too much information and a tad too personal.. ! So I am only posting a few bits.. However I must mention while writing this post I actually realised for the first time the joy of writing for one’s own self… I have a huge draft that I am sure my wife will love to read it !!!!! 😀 Thanks to Monu for this… 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀


Finally I decided to write about the most important figures in my wedding other than my wife… !!!! My dear friends !!!!!!!!


One of the most happy memories of my wedding was the way all my friends pitched in… when I was worried about the budget a few friends promised to take care if things got out of hand… and never once did I have to actually ask… they sensed it and promised voluntarily to give me confidence to enjoy the wedding… and not to worry bout money… that re-assurance went a long way to ensuring that I was enjoying my wedding rather than cribbing about money !!!!! 😀 😀 😀


For almost 15 days before the wedding all friends would gather at my house at about 8pm and we would all sit down, plan and arrange things and have tons of nashta and chai till late nights… Mom would always be ready to play the perfect host… looking back I realise that my mom has always been so so so great with my friends… always ready to cook and serve and stay awake till late nights and yet also give us privacy to go to the terrace and smoke… !!!!! 😛 😛 she was one cooool mom, must say that !!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂


The fun on those nights sitting on our terrace pulling legs, arranging/planning things, simply laughing and being in the company of them all was a wonderful time… We had no relatives in Bharuch but I must say I never felt like I needed them… Infact my Mom still remembers and cannot thank enough my friends whose coming everyday for the 15 days made her feel like a WEDDING was taking place in her house… !!!! 🙂 In gujju words, “Evu laage che ke ghar ma lagan che !!!!”


From my clothes to my wedding suite every damn thing was to be managed by us along with Mom… ! Being the first to marry in a group has its advantages, none of the friends were married so all had nights free, plus most were still not fully settled or not working so seriously as to not take leaves… I was most blessed to have all friends available at all times !!!!! 😀 😀 😀


Soon enough a couple of my dance crazy friends suggested… that whats a wedding without a dance party… we were having an afternoon wedding and we must have a dance party or some event the night before… and so my Mom said we must have “Geet Raas” (its a custom of having Garba’s, normally before the wedding day) and I was worried… though my Mom always has loved dancing and has always complained that we three kids never let her go to Garba’s… the thing that worried me more was the budget was getting stretched… and I didnt want to spend one penny from my honeymoon budget for the wedding… ! You see from very early on I was quite clear that wedding wasnt as important as the honeymoon !! :mrgreen: Even here my a couple of my friends promised me to take care if things got out of hand without me asking as they sensed what was bothering me… They told me to not worry and we will handle things… so it was Geet Raas to be… that too in a wedding of a guy who couldnt even raise his hand on a dance floor… !


On the d-day we started dancing at about 8.30 in the night and it was one sooper cold November night with almost all participating in the dance … even my mom and the elders had their customary kutchi dances and loads of garba and bhangra in the end… the super star of the night was my FIL who did an amazing jig that night that was totally original and even today my friends demand to see that jig by him as it was totally GUFFAWABLE !!!!!!!! :mrgreen: :mrgreen: no no believe you me even Hetal laughs at that dance so much you wouldnt believe !!!!!! 😀 😀 😀 😀 😆


By the way for a guy who cannot dance I danced too… that night… !!!!! thats the most dancing I would ever do in ten lives !!!!!!


At about 1.00 am in the night my FIL gave up as none of my friends would let him get to hetal or take her from the dance… eventually he had to approach my mom to request her to instruct hetal to go home… and so at about 1.30 the night of garba ended… leaving about 20 of us friends … the garba were held in the empty plot next to our house and when all had gone, started the rowdy boy’s fun… In no time we had broken the stage of the garba as all the guys decided to catch one or the other guy and then pile on him… at times almost 7-8 guys would be on the guy at the bottom… thankfully it being my wedding I was spared… but I have been there at the bottom at times…  😐 😐 trust me you dont want to know how it feels there… 😐


When the noise was increasing our neighbour complained and we all shifted to the terrace but one friend of mine, the strongest among us, decided no one would sleep and all would stand… it was quite cold and he insisted all remove their shirts… ! and spread their hands and stand… and from there on if any one would not listen he would be the one at the bottom of another pile… ! You were not to lean and take support of a wall either or you were going to the bottom of the pile… Even I had to stand without my kurta on the terrace with my hands spread wide apart and shiver.. !!! this all went on till about 4 in the morning at times you would have to relate a joke or sing a lewd song or explain to me that it was my last chance to run away or just crib about losing a bachelor to the uncle’s group all sorts of advice was flowing I tell ya.. !!! 😀 😀 😀 😀  They all even enlightened me that I am letting go of so many apsara’s and committing to this one lady… !!!!! 😛 😛 😛 sigh.. but I had transcended above all temptations at that stage !!! :mrgreen:


The madness on the terrace was so much that a few of my friends, who were given duty of collecting relatives from the station who all would arrive in different trains starting from 5 am in the morning, went to the station much earlier as coz they knew they might get some sleep on the bench on the railway station but none at all at home.. !


At around 4 somehow some one found a tumbler and he sprayed water on a guy and that was it.. suddenly at 4 am on a chilly night it was Holi !!!!! soon enough glasses and bottles were being emptied and shrieks could just not be controlled any more… ! One of the guys even managed to find a bucket and it seemed like a Mass Flu was on the way…  When I tried to reason that people will need water to bathe.. next morning… I was snubbed..


“abe chinta mat kar, fire brigade ka tempo kal subah, bahar khada hoga… teri shaadi mein sabh naha ke jaayenge.. ! Main guarantee deta hoon…!!”


This snarl came from a guy who is 6’3″ and weighs about 85 kgs… and he was half wet… so I decided that I needed to simply save myself for my wedding… and let him proceed to get his bucket thirsty revenge… ( Please to note not one of the blokes were drunk not one drop, they were high on just dost ki shaadi ! )


Thankfully the splashing water and a lot of noise suddenly brought Mom up and Mom brought with her a lot of sanity…  thankfully all the water was not wasted … at around 5.30 I was told to sleep so that I would be fresh and most of the other friends didnt sleep and went to their respective houses to get fresh after another hour at about 6.30 or so as all had to be present for serving breakfast at home at 8.


Next day all went as per schedule… and we were to reach the wedding venue at 11.30 and at 11.30 we were there but alas there was no bride to welcome us !!!!! The bride was still in the beauty parlour, Hetal was busy getting ready and we all had reached… !!!!! My FIL had a near heart attack watching us reach there at right time !!!!! 😛 😛 😛 😛 coz its quite customary in Gujarati weddings to reach late.. !!! 😛 😛 😛


Hetal made us wait for almost half an hour at the gate before madam turned up to welcome the already waiting dulha.. ! 😐 Please to read that earlier post about the wedding if you want more details…

After our wedding was over we all went home…  and all friends would not let me sit with Hetal… eventually in the evening they all had to get my room ready so they all went and I got atleast 1 hour with Hetal… eventually at around 9 we left our house to go for my hotel suite.. with a few friends… the one piece of advise I can never forget while leaving my house came from a 70 year old relative he whispered just as I left in my ear, “Jaa beta fateh karke aana !!!” (I couldnt believe this guy was real… it seemed I was going on WAR !!!) 😛 😛 😛 😛


We were made to wait outside the hotel as the room was not ready… and my friends could see I was pissed of as I was being made to sit in the hotel parking in the car…They would ask if I wanted a sandwich or a ice cream and what not to just keep me quiet but hell I wanted to go to my rooooooooom !!!!!!!


Eventually we reached there at about 10 but the guys and yes… all guys.. no girls… who all knew Hetal and Hetal knew her wouldnt go… they sat there ordered biryani and what not and stayed with us till about 11.30 teasing and irritating and no matter how cool you act… they know your itching to throw them out… ! Eventually at 11.3o they left but only after a hefty bribe..


The next day I was to board the August Kranti to Delhi for honeymoon and I had a group of 25 people to drop me at the railway station, guys and this time with their girls to drop me off at the station and we did create a huge ruckus on the platform… it just seemed like I was a VIP going to Delhi to address the parliament with their worries.. 😛 😛 😛


As I boarded the train the bye bye was so noisy and cheerful most passengers in the train and on the railway station were looking at us.. we all couldnt say bye enough to each other… they were instructing the pantry staff to take care of the kids.. ! some were advising tips for the honeymoon some jibbering laughter and a lot of hugs and hand shakes and what not !!!! 😀 😀 😀

Just as my train began to move… I took out a cigarette in the door way and another guy who was standing there smoking told me …

“all those came to drop you ?”

sheepishly I said, “yea, made a lot of noise didnt they !”

The guy just replied, “your a very very lucky man to have friends like those!”


I knew that all along but it felt really good coming from another person, who didnt know me or us but could spot the obvious fact so very fast. 


I had have the most enviable set of friends, who would do any and everything for me, be it turning into caterers or drivers they were up for it… ! We had tons of fun before and during the marriage and then we had a party once I was back from my honeymoon, but I can never thank my friends enough… They simply are the biggest treasure of my life… and guess what dude’s and dudette’s I am coming back to Bharuch !!!!!!!!!!! in 5 days time !!!!!!!!!! :D 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀


Seriously cant wait to get back .. like Tony Greig says.. they will be dancing in the ayles.. yes we will… !!!!!


God bless our friendship and may it keep growing stronger with each passing day !!!!!!!! Amen !


Added later : I have to tag a few bloggers according to Monu and I find this difficult as I am not sure who will like doing it or not… but I will do my bit : I’ll tag the guys… !!!!




Vimmmuu !!!!!!!!!!! 😀 😀 😀




86 thoughts on “A wedding amidst friends…

  1. Sakshi says:

    Hitchy boyyy…that’s the way hitchy boy
    tere maathe teekha chamke
    tera chashma kaala kaala hai re…
    naino se bole raba raba man main dole raba raba
    tu hitchy boy

    Phirst!!!! :mrgreen:

  2. Sakshi says:

    Yup you are indeed a lucky guy to have friends like these guys. I must add that you are so adorable 🙄 that even I (who doesn’t open my mouth much) adore you as my friend.

    We were the first to get married in our group and I can fully relate to all that hungama you went through :mrgreen: You are lucky to be in your room at a decent hour while we almost didn’t get to celebrate what they call in bollywood Suhag raat on our very own wedding night 🙄

  3. Pixie says:

    yup! you ae indeed lucky to have friends like us! 😉
    (see, I have included ourselves in your long list of good friends!!)

    You went around puring water on each other’s heads at 4 AM!! Brrr… and in November!! 😆
    Super encounter Hitchy!! It was fun to read! 🙂
    and your memories are precious 🙂


    • hitchwriter says:


      Touchwood ! 😀

      lol if you call spraying a tumbler full of water with all the might you have got in your hands pouring water !!!!!! 😛 😛

      Yess… I loved recounting so many of them thanks to Monu !!!!!! 😀

  4. UmaS says:

    Oh !! Lovely post, Hitch !!! Judge a man by the friends he has – And you are certainly a wonderful person to have such a group of friends !!!!

    I am reminded of a similar scene in the railway station, when we left for Delhi for our honeymoon. S’s friends had come and created such a big hungama !!! But it was good to see so many friends !!!

    Touchwood for your friends and ur friendship !!!

    LOL @ Hetal made you wait for an hour !!!! She knows you’ll wait for her, forever !!!! 🙂 😉

    • hitchwriter says:

      et tu S !!!!!!!! 😀 😀 😀

      in our case our friends were all common with we being class mates… 😉

      like I said at that point of time I had transcended above all and wanted to marry badly no matter what… so I would have waited for an eternity !!! 😀

  5. Solilo says:

    “The guy just replied, “your a very very lucky man to have friends like those!”

    Yes! true friends are rare and precious.

    Hitchy, that was absolutely fun read.

  6. comfortablynam says:

    Amen.. to Friends and friendship..and seems like you had a blast on your wedding..but then who would not with so many friends around.

    You make me want to see my friends right now..sigh..how I wish..

    Have a blast in Bharuch and come back to tell us all the tails..err..tales..

  7. Swaram says:

    Thatz total fun Hitchu .. God bless all ur friends 😀
    We hd a lot of fun too and the best part ws that even the elders in the family hd gone crazy and we spent the whole eve partying hard 😉 What fun reliving those memories 🙂

  8. Sakhi says:

    O Man, hitchy, my eyes started brimming with unshed tears by the end of the post. You indeed are lucky to have such freinds 🙂

    But, hey, gujju ma moda avavu e fashion hati, have nathi!! 😛 😛 samajyo? khotu khotu gujarat ne badnaam na kar!! 😀 😀

  9. oorja says:

    Amen.. you really have great friends….

    You have to be one to have so many… so this proves you are a great friend too…..

    good to know you… 🙂 and your story too… 😀

  10. Pal says:

    Hey!! nice nice nice! ROFL at the wedding saga… also at ‘customary at Gujju weddings to be late’ 🙂 And congrats on being able to move back home 🙂

  11. monikamanchanda says:

    a total awww post hitchy my eyes are a little wet… touch wood may ur friends always be with u..

    may hetal and u always always be happy with lots of love in the air

    i am so glad i tagged u 🙂

  12. Goofy Mumma says:

    Touchwood! That you have such wonderful wonderful friends. They are life’s best treasure no doubt.

    And thank God they left your room at 11:30. Imagine if they had not, tum kab kila fateh karte? Neend se toot gaye hote tab tak. hahaha hahaha.

    I really wish I could read that draft though. 😉

  13. Sandhya says:

    This is a beautiful post, Dhiren! You relived your wedding night. Yes, it is great to have friends like you have. You are very lucky. Hetal made you wait for half and hour, eh?!

    You seem to have started living among your old friends, happy?

    All the best, Dhiren! Enjoyed this long epic of a post and it was very very interesting.

    • hitchwriter says:

      Most happy… Sandhya… most happy to be going back in another 5 days time… ! if you have a fast forward remote.. please to press !!!!!! 😀 😀 😀

      I have been blessed… with friends… !!!!! touchwood !

  14. Vimmuuu says:

    Is this your longest post ever ???? 😀 😀 😀 😀

    So many good memories and that too with friends.

    Thanks for tagging but I dont think I can do justice to the tag. Shall write the reasons in my new post ! 😀

    • hitchwriter says:

      Guess so …. ! 😀

      You cant do justice ?? just one story from around your marraige… I am sure you can write about the pretty Saali’s or about Friends of Laxmi !!!!!!!!!! 😛 😛 😛

  15. sands says:

    wow, to repeat other comments, I have to say you are one lucky man and this tale reminds me of my brother’s wedding, who also happens to live cricket like you 🙂 and has friends who just show up anytime he needs them…..

  16. Parul says:

    A really touching and great post !!
    Everything else can change in life but not the friends. And boy, you did have an eventful marriage 🙂
    Brings back memories of mine (which was not as evenful as yours though)

  17. Ashwathy says:

    Hitchuuuuuuuuu!!!!!!!!!! 😀 😀 😀

    Such a goddamned awesome post!!!!!!! I LOVED IT!!!!!!!! 😀 😀 😀 seriously!! this is among ur best yet!!!

    I laughed reading it… but most importantly i cud SO imagine the scenes unfolding before my eyes 🙂 🙂 🙂
    ((((big hugs to u)))

    and most importantly… u made the whole event feel so special from the way u wrote it 🙂

    I agree… being the eldest to marry – be it among friends or relatives – has its advantages of having everyone gather to ur wedding. Happened with my eldest cousin’s wedding…

    And touchwood! U do have a lovely mother and wonderful set of friends… God bless! 🙂

  18. kanagu says:

    Wonderful and its worth the wait from the time i Have heard it 🙂 🙂
    You are blessed with wonderful friends… Cheers to you all 🙂 🙂
    And yay to returning back to bharuch… 🙂 🙂

  19. Rakesh says:

    Awesome Awesome man… This post just brought memories flooding back to me.

    As you’ve mentioned a lot of what I’d like to say is so personal that it would be very difficult for me to put it on the blog but I’ll do just like you did… I’ll put in as much as I can 🙂

  20. Smitha says:

    That was so much fun to read, Hitchy!! I was laughing all the way through 🙂

    You are indeed lucky to have friends like this! And again, it is because you are you, that you have friends like this 🙂 Hugs!!

    You must be so excited to return to Bharuch and group up with your friends again 🙂 It must be such a wonderful feeling!

    We were one of the first in our group to get married too 🙂 Just one guy got married before us 🙂 So for a while, I was the only girl in a big group of guys 🙂

  21. Aarti says:

    damn sweet post… could almost visualise the whole event unfolding!! :))
    have been part of friends’ weddings and the amount of fun and love you feel is amazing… we’ve done what nots… [shhh. cant write here… :D]

    Looking fwd to our Vimmuuu sharing his story!!

  22. Badz says:

    WoW! I LOVED reading that. So the bride was late hey? Now doesn’t that ring a bel… 😉

    And that’s really mean you not putting up a video of “sweet” FIL dancing the night before the wedding. That would have been “interesting” to watch. (BUT obviously not as fun to watch as the real live show) 😉 😛

    Well written dear. It felt as if I was watching/experiencing the whole thing myself. I must say this is one of my favourite posts written by you. 🙂

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