Just whilst discussing a few things with my friend Jay, we kept talking about a friend of ours whose dad has a huge factory and is now looking to retire handing over the business to his son. However, that friend of mine, perhaps has never grown, always and never having to look for survival or worry about money he always had fun in life. He is crazy about car’s and would rather open a garage then run a chemical factory. However, his dad who is a self made guy who worked his ass off from living in his brother’s house to building a huge empire and a lot of fortune is a dominant guy and always wanted his son to study, take science stream and perhaps ensure his business would flourish even further. I guess he always thought, my son has a start that I did not have. But alas! Like so many times, his son is least interested in his business, however, thanks to a lot of conditioning he sits in his factory, being forced by wife and dad to be more responsible, grow up in life and take charge.
This I and Jay reckoned is the state of a lot of people in life. I don’t know really, whether its our upbringing to blame. Maybe we who come from people who became parent’s in the 70’s and those who always thought that standing up on your feet, earning and prospering was the way to get ahead in life. That life meant being successful in your career’s.
Did really our parent’s ever tell us, Son/Daughter no matter what you do, lot of money or less money, make sure you know where your heart is, make sure you are happy. Were we all not bred to be horses racing all along in life??
Study now then you can enjoy, its 10th! Then it was 12th! then it was college! then it was to get married then it was to earn money. Somehow during these years a lot of minds are groomed and a lot of psyche’s are toned to being in work.
Somehow, I feel a lot of parents need to pass on this message alongside the be successful in your career message. Be happy in life son, identify what you want to do and go about it. Work, slog but don’t forget to live your life. After all life is not about the bank balance or the three flats you invested in, its about that trek in the hills that leaves you panting, that dip in the river water that has you scared to shit and excited like mad! Its more the adrenalin rush you feel when you go whee-ing in that speed boat in the sea or the feel of calm walking on the beach with your loved one! Its in spotting that elusive wild cat or maybe helping a needy kid and watching his smile upon you touching their life! It is in travelling to a new land and meeting new people and eating that unthinkable dish! 😀 😀
Human’s sure have carved out a world that’s tricky I tell ya, yes, our kids need 20-25 years to just be independent, wonder if we evolved or that fawn who has to survive in hours after it’s birth. Quite a few points to ponder and I guess you must be getting late for work reading this post.
But my friend admist all the hullabaloo in life stop for a second, think, and yes, try to be Happy for once 😀